All the girls want...

It’s funny how men come up to me after I have performed and mention how I must be getting all the girls since I have a load of magic as my arsenal. And the truth was, I never used magic to impress girls. What is the point? Girls don’t fall in love with a card trick. Girls don’t go ga ga over a retention vanish.

There are people who sell these books on how to seduce woman. Most of the time, the end goal is nothing more than physical satisfaction. But after you have “had them,” where do you go from there? Now that you have given the lines and the patterns and got her… where do you go from there?

Sure the physical contact is fun, but is that truly what the man wants. Maybe he wants more confidence, companionship, a true relationship, or just to have a sense of being attractive. End result is you have a bunch of guys using the same techniques on girls, having their way with them and then being lost on what to do next. They end up in the exact same spot where they started because their true goal wasn’t just to get in bed with someone, but rather to have a loving relationship. So sure they’ve met a lot of women, had relationships with them and yet, they are still lonely because they aren’t actually going for the true goal they want.

Maybe some people who call themselves magicians should ask what they want out of magic. Do they want attention? Do they want to appear smart? Do they want to gain friends? Appear attractive? Are they just a fan of the art and really don’t want anything from it at all?

Sometimes people don’t understand what they are truly after. I was with a client and she made the statement she wanted to find time to workout more. I ask her if you had time to workout more what would you get out of that. She told me she would have more energy. I asked her if she had more energy what would she get out of that. She mentioned she wouldn’t be so tired in class. I asked her what she would get out of not being so tired in class and she told me it was to better her grades. Her end goal wasn’t to find more time to workout, but what she really wanted was to get better grades. Don’t you think there is a more efficient way of getting better grades then jogging a few miles every morning?

Don’t get me wrong. Magic is a wonderful way to get people’s attention if you are selling a product or service at a trade show or illustrating a lesson. But, after you perform the trick, there is only you.

The exercise is real simple. Whether it be about magic, a new job, dying your hair, etc. just ask, “What would I get out of this?” three times like the example above and you may be surprised on what you find out about yourself and what your TRUE desires actually are. Then once you know your true desires, you may find you’ll have to get them through other ways besides magic.

Always wishing the best,
Adam White
https://dalemagic.com/Other_Artists.html